F*ck Around and Find Out with Anna Lee: What women want and like

Hello my sweet angel pies! This month is Women's History Month and I thought it was only appropriate (and a little funny) to spend this month's column answering questions men have sent me trying to understand women a little better. So to my fellow women, have an amazing month being the goddesses you are. And to men, maybe ask a woman in your life a thoughtful question or two to get to know her better. Also, pick up some flowers for her on the way.

What’s with women’s obsession with men’s hands? -Minjae

You have no idea how much this question makes me feel vindicated. One time in college, my friends and I were sitting around in our dorm lobby late at night talking about the first thing we look at in the opposite sex. We were going around in a circle and everyone was saying something really reasonable like "her hair," "his eyes," "their smile," and when it was my turn, I confidently said "his veiny hands." I felt my friends dart their eyes at me with 50 percent confusion and 50 percent concern. I felt like a freak. It wasn't until later when I saw this  viral thread with 31,000 likes and 1,200 replies that I knew I found my people. 

I don’t know what the obsession is, honestly. I just know I like it. Something about a capable looking hand is chef's kiss.

And on a side note, cracking up at this reply to the thread.

What does an orgasm feel like for women compared to men? Is it really that different?? -Joe

Funnily enough, I've genuinely wondered the same thing! Unfortunately (fortunately?) I don't have a penis to compare notes with myself, so I've had to rely on the next best things: research and a very willing best friend. More on him in a second.

Researchers have actually been trying to crack this code for decades. One of the more well-known models is the human sexual response cycle by Masters and Johnson in 1966, mapping out four stages: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. Other models have followed since, like sex therapist Helen Kaplan's three-stage model, and Rosemary Basson's model focusing specifically on women's sexual response. But the big question has always been: does the orgasm itself FEEL different?

And the answer, based on what we know so far, is...not really? In a 1976 study led by researchers Vance and Wagner, they collected written descriptions of orgasms from men and women, removed references to genitalia, and gave them to 70 professionals to guess who wrote what. None of the judges could tell which gender wrote what. Our brains seem to agree too. Researchers at the University of Groningen in the Netherlands found that while male and female brain activity differed leading UP to the orgasm, during orgasm itself brain activity was almost identical, with about 95 percent being the same.

The biggest differences? Logistics. Women tend to have longer orgasms at about 20 seconds, versus men's three to 10 seconds. But before men start feeling shortchanged, men orgasm in about 95 percent of sexual encounters compared to 69 percent for women. Classic.

Now among all these great studies, my best friend and I HAD to throw our hats in the ring. In the name of doing my absolute most to answer your sex questions, we battled it out with Lioness vibrators: his orgasm data versus my orgasm data.

The verdict? We're basically orgasm twins. The rhythmic contraction and relaxation patterns looked nearly identical. His force was way higher (anal muscles are no joke, y'all), but the overall shape? Eerily similar. Turns out we're all just humans having human orgasms out here.

If you were stranded on a deserted island, which sex toy would you take and why? -Rohan G

Ooooh, this thought has actually crossed my mind while on a turbulent flight. As much as I would love to be my own greatest marketer and say the Lioness, we have to be realistic and consider that there wouldn't be a way to charge it after the battery dies (even with its incredible battery life ). So my answer would be the nJoy stainless steel dildo. 

Because it's stainless steel, it would be easy to clean and you could easily do temperature play to keep things interesting by letting it sit in the sun to heat it up or dunking it in the cold ocean to make it cool to the touch. I was also thinking if there are coconuts around, I could make some coconut oil to use as lube.

Okay, maybe I've thought about this more deeply than just a "crossed my mind" scenario. Haha.

If you got to have a penis for one day, what would be the first thing you do with it? -ASKFJDLSFASDSDSF

Ugh, I’ve thought about this before too. I’d 100 percent wildly swing my hips side-to-side naked so it makes that funny slapping noise. 

I promise you that there is truly NO question too unhinged for F*ck Around and Find Out with Anna Lee. Have a question you’d like me to answer for the next article? Submit them anonymously here!