F*ck Around and Find Out with Anna Lee: End Masturbation May with a bang

May is the most special month of the year for me because it’s my birthday month, Masturbation May, AND AANHPI Heritage Month. It’s basically a month destined for greatness in my eyes and now hopefully yours too. As we close out the best month of the year, I’m celebrating with another round of F*ck Around and Find Out with Anna. So let’s hold up our dildos and cheers to me getting another year of personal, funny sex anecdotes and another year crammed full of sex facts!

Are we freeing the bush in 2025? I’m tired of shaving. -Anonymous

Bless you for asking the real questions because I too have fallen victim in the past years. I’ve experienced shifting in my seat because my coochie itches from day-three shaving, watching blunt-cut hairs peaking through my underwear fabric as it grows out, spreading my buttcheeks open in butterfly position for the waxing technician, and the single tear rolling down my cheek (face) as the laser technician swears it should just feel like the snap of a rubberband (it didn’t). So yes, my sweet honey angel, free the bush. Let that bush prosper.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve now had the pleasure of seeing the many cycles of body hair trends to realize the bush is basically like fashion: it comes and goes every few eras. In the early 2000s, we were all out here risking labial razor burn for a fully bald eagle situation. Then the landing strip era. The “is it safe to Nair my coochie” moment. Now, we’re cultivating our very own little jungles and that’s pretty damn cool. Also, an honorable mention for the vajazzling phase in which you bedazzle your mons pubis with little gems…which I still think is gnarly and I’d be tempted to try if the opportunity ever presented itself.

Anyways, the point is, do whatever you want with your bush! The “doing-whatever-you-want” is the one trend that will never die. But shaving because you're supposed to? Not cool. If you decide to go vajazzling, let me know. I want to come too :) 

This guy I’m dating asked me to push his taint while he jacked off to finish. Why? -BM

Ah, the good ol’ Backdoor Hoverboard 3000, where you skate on the skin near the backdoor entrance. (I just made this name up, but tell me calling it a “backdoor hoverboard" isn't way cuter than taint.) For anyone unfamiliar with the term, taint, it’s a slang for the area between the base of the genitals and the anus, scientifically called the perineum. 

Now, we’ll never know the true answer unless you just ask him, but I do have a great educated guess as to why he’s asked you to push on that area. What he asked for is actually anatomically sound and dare I say, efficient. The perineum sits right over the walnut-sized prostate, an ultimate nerve-rich, feel-good spot. Its actual function is to create fluids that help protect and nourish sperm, but it happens to often feel really, really good for people with pensies. So when you press on that area, it can create this intense internal pressure that simulates prostate stimulation without having to access it through anal. It’s like a real-life cheat code, honestly. How cool is that?!

I feel like when I have sex after smoking a joint, it feels way better and the orgasms feel more intense. My partner agrees as well. Is this a common experience or is it just us? -TH

I love me a little high masturbating and sex, as long as I don’t have anything else to do that day. In fact, I think many researchers have had similarly positive personal experiences with THC enough times that it’s actually been studied and published quite a few times in the past 10 years! 

I like to cite two notable studies.The first one is a survey done in 2019 that showed that many of the participants found cannabis helped them relax, heightened their sensitivity to touch, and increased the intensity of feelings, which in turn meant that THC enhanced their sexual experiences. The second study I like to cite is one from 2024 led by Susan Mulvehill of the Female Orgasm Research Institute, in which they found cannabis use before partnered sex increased orgasm frequency (72.8 percent), improved orgasm satisfaction (67 percent), and made orgasms easier to achieve (71 percent) for women who routinely had difficulty having orgasms. So yes, what hippies have been saying for decades before legalization rings somewhat true: there is definitely something special with cannabis that could help make pleasure better for many people!

Now, it’s important to mention that there is so much left to be studied more deeply and understood about cannabis and sex. We’re at just the tip of the iceberg in terms of scientific and medical research. There haven’t been enough protocols solidified to understand dosage levels, frequency, and gender differences on the effects of cannabis, especially pertaining to pleasure. For example, it’s been cited that low dosage of THC can lead to heightened sexual desire, but too much THC can lead to the exact opposite—difficulty reaching an orgasm or premature ejaculation. This means research needs to start solidifying what “too much” means for people to optimize THC for its beneficial effects. In the meantime, know that you and your partner are absolutely not alone, so enjoy an edible for me!

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