F*ck Around and Find Out with Anna Lee: Do socks help get your rocks off?

We have officially made it to the holidays. I’ve been spending my free time cackling at TikToks of parents doing absolutely diabolical Elf on the Shelf pranks on their kids and, slightly more productively, workshopping dirty phrases to put on top of my office Christmas tree. Current contenders include, “Let it O,” “Santa is Coming,” and the timeless classic, “Hoe, Hoe, Hoe.”

Can you tell I am spiritually already logged off for the year?

But before I slam my laptop shut, let me leave you with my final sex advice for 2025. Consider this your year-end maintenance guide to stay lubed, stretched, and unlike my laptop, spread open.

What’s with the whole thing that you’re more likely to have an orgasm if you wear socks during sex? Is it actually true? -Joanne

In college, I briefly dated a guy who was obsessed with Flight of the Conchords. Before we’d hook up, he would sing, “Now I’m naked, except for my socks, and you know when I’m down to just my socks…it’s business time.”

So yes. I have a very visceral reaction to socks during sexy time that is roughly 80 percent ick and 20 percent deeply endearing.

But personal trauma aside, there actually is some interesting lore behind this myth.

Back in 2005, BBC wrote an article about a study that was led by Dutch neuroscientist and professor, Dr. Gert Holstege. The research involved MRI brain scans during partnered sex. As one extremely small footnote in the paper, the researchers mentioned that some couples asked to wear socks in the MRI machine because it was cold, and that once they were warmer, more of them were able to orgasm.

That’s it. That’s the whole socks thing.

Unfortunately, journalists took that tiny detail and absolutely ran it into the ground with headlines like, “SOCKS GIVE YOU BETTER ORGASMS.” Holstege even tried to clarify that socks were not some magical orgasm-activating device and that it was really about comfort and relaxation. But you know the Internet.

Twenty years later, we are still debating the erotic power of a good pair of ankle socks. Flight of the Concords, I’ll never forgive you.

Come on Anna, what’s your top sex position for 2025? - Brett S.

You know what. You’re right. We have a Pantone Color of the Year, so why the hell don’t we have a Sex Position of the Year?! Pantone crowned 2025’s color as a poo-poo Mocha Mousse because Pantone reasoned that 2025 was about “thoughtful indulgence and subtle elegance.” Subtle elegance? I would have to disagree.

To me, 2025 was the first year that truly felt like life, pre-pandemic. Lots of moments of, “oh wow, we’re back,” immediately followed by the feeling of not fully trusting that we’re back. It had sparks of normalcy, but also plenty of mess, exhaustion, and emotional whiplash.

So with that in mind, I would like to officially award 2025’s Sex Position of the Year. Drumroll please.

Reverse cowgirl!

Is it the most romantic position? No.
Is it the most intimate? Also no.
Is it the most satisfying every single time? Definitely not.

But it’s familiar. It’s a little chaotic. It’s something you’ve done before but don’t necessarily rely on. And sometimes, that’s exactly the vibe. Sometimes you don’t want perfection. You just want to shake things up a little and see what happens.

“It’s alright.”

Which, honestly, feels like the most accurate summary of 2025 we could ask for.

That’s all from me this year. Go eat something mocha mousse, keep your socks optional, and have a happy holiday, cutie pies!  

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