F*ck Around and Find Out with Anna Lee: A guide to out-of-this-world sex

Hello, wonderful people! The sun has been beaming lately and it's been putting me in the best mood. I've been planting my spring vegetables, baking bread, and genuinely having more O's than I did all winter. Never underestimate the power of vitamin D (the sun kind, you pervs). Now let's get to your horny questions!

I read a Reddit thread about people using weed before sex and a bunch of women were saying it helped them get out of their head and actually enjoy sex more. I'm someone who definitely overthinks during sex so this sounds kind of amazing? But is it legit or just stoner vibes talking? -K

Ah, a very fitting question for the month of 4/20. I feel like if you ask any recreational stoner (me), almost everyone (including me) will agree that having sex while high brings a whole new level of sensation. And interestingly enough, the research community has taken notice too. Studies have started rolling out within the past few years with generally the same consensus: a lot of people report that cannabis enhances their sexual experiences, particularly around relaxation, heightened sensation, and increased desire.

Now, I obviously don't think cannabis is for everyone and I'm not encouraging anything you don't feel would work for your body. But I can speak from my own experience as someone who lives in a state where recreational cannabis is legal. I'm the type of person who has a thousand things running through her brain at all times and sometimes it's hard to turn it off, and that includes during sex. What ends up happening is I let my brain drive without really being in touch with my body. I've found that a small amount of weed really helps me lose that sense of urgency and brings me back into my body. It makes me more attuned to the sensations and I get to an orgasm more often.

So yes, I do think it's kind of amazing, especially if there are post-O snacks involved.

Signed,
Probably stoner vibes

My husband and I are pretty adventurous, we've accumulated a solid toy collection over the years. But his latest idea was a sex swing and I had to veto. It's not even that I'm not interested, it's the logistics. We can't just have that thing hanging there when my sister comes to visit or when the landlord does a walkthrough. LMAO. What would you recommend as an alternative that doesn't require a construction project? -Anonymous

I just watched two videos on how to install a sex swing out of curiosity and oh boy, that is quite the project. And one giant ceiling hook. To be frank, I've never actually used one before, but I have officially added it to my bucket list for if I ever come across a ceiling I trust enough.

Have you ever tried a sex pillow? I feel like this could be a nice alternative since it still adds some flair to the bedroom. There are a ton of different shapes for different positions and even ones that have holes to put toys into. I know it's not exactly the same thing, but it still goes in the realm of adult playground equipment. Plus, it's easy to chuck into the closet when your landlord comes through, or just pass it off as a uniquely shaped dog bed. No one's asking follow-up questions about a weird pillow.

But if the sex pillow doesn't cut it for you and your husband, I say go the full distance. Hang the swing in the living room so your guests know y'all are just out here having the best time of your lives together.

Do you think it’s possible to have sex in space? -Anonymous

I don't know if this is a high shower thought question, but let me just say, these are the kinds of questions that. Get. Me. Horny!! I freaking love a nerdy sex question. I've officially spent a few hours going down the rabbit hole of space sex logistics and I regret nothing.

Is it possible? Technically, probably. I trust that humans are horny enough to make sex possible in any circumstance. But gracefully? Probably not. There are a few factors at play that would make it tricky.

Newton's third law says for every action, there's an equal and opposite reaction. In zero gravity, that means every thrust would push you and your partner apart and you'd just drift into walls and equipment like two very horny pinballs. Then there's the fluid situation. Research suggests microgravity can reduce vaginal lubrication and mess with the blood flow you need for arousal. So the two things you REALLY need for good sex, staying put and staying wet, are both working against you up there.

People have tried to solve this though. In 2006, a novelist named Vanna Bonta invented a suit lined with Velcro designed to help two people have sex in zero gravity called the 2Suit. It took her and her husband eight attempts just to successfully HUG in zero gravity. Eight tries for a hug, y'all.

Oh, and NASA officially says no one has ever had sex in space. But a secretly married astronaut couple DID fly together on the same shuttle mission in 1992, sooo...I have questions.

My verdict: possible with creativity, Velcro (hot!), and a lot of patience.

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